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Laane's blog
These last days have been far too hectic. Because I said during the visit with the psychiatrist for N that his problem was partly an interactive problem. she speeded up the assessments for T and L. So that meant over 60 pages of paperwork to fill in. Make them fill in their own pages, and have school answer their questions and give me their files. For T it wasn't a problem and it came through rather swiftly, but L's mentor seemed to have a problem with handing over a copy of the file. Why do people create problems instead of solve them?? And there were so many other things to do. Birthdays to attent, birthdays to organise. Because we have 5 birthdays in a month here at home, people feel they can drop in at the strangest times. Usually I don't mind, but with all these "issues" going on, and D to help, because she can't use her arm, and the carnaval etc etc. I feel I have hardly enough time. So yesterday I felt tired and ill, and today I got a migraine. It was far worse than before. Maybe because of the new medication. Don't know. I still have many things to do, and I hope I can do them tomorrow. Labels: -
. So we went to see the doc. I mean, we went to see the waitingroom and saw the doc for a short while too. LOL! I was impressed by the way this little lady told him what was the matter. She barely fitted in the chair! LOL! She had a good laugh when he had to examine her belly. It tickled and we three had a very relaxed time. We can't find the cause of her paleness. Nor can we find the reason why she is so thin. She seems to be healthy, so let's keep her under observation and move on. Tomorrow she's going to school again. She wants to go, although she doesn't want to go to that teacher. Her loyalty conflict has dimished, because we've kept our mouth closed about the teacher. Let's see how it goes from there. I don't want her to go, to be honest. I feel the teacher is insincere, and although she says she's caring, she clearly doesn't. Al this time after the false accussation she's had a chance to send a postcard to Y, or inform about her, and she didn't. Well, we'll see what happens. Now it's waiting for Childcare to take action. I hope they're able to see that everything is OK here in our family. One of our politicians wrote in his blog about childabuse. I commented that bullying and allowing bullying is childabuse too. Oh, how I wish someone would help me fighting the school and stop the bullying. They still don't want to acknowledge that there is a lot of crap going on. Well, I'll fight this fight as far as it's needed. Children should be able to go to school in a safe and respectful environment. . Labels: -, school
My birthday!!!!
 The positive effect of having 6 children is getting a lot of presents. LOL! So I got a large book with quotes, a miniature shop made in Colombia from clay and carefully handpainted. I got a sweet, that was all sticky and dusty. But who can complain? Got some beautiful drawings, and a kind of little african mask, "jewellery set"...ahem, and a cardigan in the right color!!! The wood of the windowsil split last week. A new wooden shelf was waiting, so I decided to put a bit of paint at the bottonpart of the window. The brush was changing hairs at exactly that moment, and the paint was crap. Then it turned out the shelf was 20 cm short. That's the consequence of living with a DIY wonder with two left hands. LOL! Then I found myself cleaning the room and doing the toilet. I hate doing that on my birthday!!!!! And then suddenly a friend arrived. So I ran upstairs to get a look in the mirror and fix things while the kids opened the door. Got a couple of phonecalls and when it was afternoon, the school called. D had fallen at gymnastics. So our friend brought us to ER, where we watched "As the world turns" in the waiting room. Didn't expect that to see on my birthday. LOL!  Luckily the arm wasn't broken, but because they were not completely sure they fixated it anyway. She was great! Didn't complain at all. We took Y with us and she was talking all the time. No better opportunity than this to see how far she is behind in development. She is so sweet, but I'm worried about her.  When we went home and were waiting for the buss, three nurses were sharing a large bag with sweets. Ofcourse the twins were looking and then suddenly they were asked if they wanted too. It was such a nice and fun moment. Y got shy and they had to cheer to her to take three sweets. Then they told D to take a complete handful. SHE DID!!! LOL! So I said to her that I felt my upbringing had failed completely, just for fun. And everyone around us was laughing. Such a nice moment. All those people smiling. Looked like christmas! I was happy they had some sweets, because we had to walk home from the busstop and I really needed some silence in my ears. And then the geese flew over........ such a beautiful moment! I couldn't see them, but it felt like they were all around us...... At home none had taken the effort to start cooking. I was about to start when someone was at the door. One of my best friends. He's the head editor of a monthly paper and he likes to hand it over to me. (He wants me to read and comment...) He gave me a big hugg and walked back to his car. So I felt happy he'd come over for my birthday, even while he had no time to come in. Then D called him and said something about my birthday. Turned out he'd forgotten. LOL! We all had a good laugh, and I got a couple of extra huggss. So we improvised dinner, meaning bread.... The kids had made a video interviewing each other. That was fun. After I helped D to get ready for bed. Brushing her teeth and doing everything else, I was completely drained. Fell asleep on their bed!!! Some visitors and then the day was over. Didn't even have time to go through the mail or do anything else. I wanted to put the graphic gifts on a special page, but that will be done this weekend. Thanks friends for sending them! I really appreciate it. The days are just tooooooo short. Labels: -
. . So I called Child Care at 9. The woman who took my call was very kind and she told me someone would call back. At about 10 the phone rang once. No call.... So we went to the appointment with the trustperson of school at about an hour later. When we arrived in town we saw someone had called. It was Child Care. She spoke rather bitchy. But when I was talking with her she got nicer. Explained to me it would take about a week before we would be contacted, because they first had to assign the case to someone, etc etc. Ofcourse I gave a quick explanation, but also said that I understood she couldn't take me on my word, as many others would say they didn't have done anything. She laughed and said that was right. Then I said that it was quite a disappointment that we couldn't make an appointment for this afternoon to get the matter settled, as I have my birthday tomorrow. Also asked if the procedure could be stopped by anyone. Yes. If the headmaster would call. Then I informed her we were going to see the trustperson of the school and we said goodbye. She even wished me a happy birthday! ttt.... After that I went through an almost unknown experience. We were welcomed so very nice!!! Not only by the secretary who gave us coffee and a little talk, but also by the trustperson. It was like the warm sun. He listened, took notes, asked questions and gave us the feeling he understood. We talked half of the time about the bullying at school, and also about the whole situation about the homeschooling last year. He got very interested and also distressed. When you put all those issues on the table, there's a lot wrong at the school. And he's going to bring this under the attention of people who can really change matters. He also said he would consider what he could do about the report to child care. He was very amazed we had absolutely no say in the matter, and that we weren't allow to have time to talk about it between us two and with Y. He was also amazed that the headmaster did take no interest whatsoever when I wrote him that we had interesting information about the talk with Y, and that made him too feel like the headmaster is trying to get rid of us, because I'm fighting the bullying at school. He was angry that there had been many "procedural mistakes". Especially waiting a whole month to inform either Child Care or me, and taking the risk during the christmas vacation made him angry. He also concluded that the headmaster doesn't care one bit about Y. When we went he patted Jim on the back, and held my arm for a moment to express his support. I felt relaxed when we stepped out the door into the cold. After that we visited the Fair Trade Shop. Found a nice bood with quotes for my birthday and had a talk with the owner. We both know each other for many years now. He even put on my favorite music! LOL! After that we went to the library where one of the boys was waiting. On our way through town we found a nice shop with Columbian Art. We bought a little house there. It's so beautiful. The girl who wrapped it was nice and there too we had a talk. So one in all this day wasn't too bad. But still...there's that strange tense feeling inside..... And now I'll go to bed. It's my birthday!! Labels: -
. They gave the letter in which they wrote they'd reported the matter to Child Care to Yinti to hand over to us!!!!! Those people clearly have no conscience and feeling of compassion. We live rather near to school, so it would have taken just a little effort to put it in our mailbox themselves. I'm just too naieve to have thought they would reconsider. Well, that adds to their stupidity! LOL! I was sooo glad we had an appointment with our doctor at the end of the afternoon. We told the whole story in detail and it brought what happened a couple of years ago even closer. I'm so tired, I don't want this train to stop!! Because Y said she didn't feel well, I asked for an appointment to make clear to her that staying at home and showing illness symptoms doesn have medical consequences. (He mailed later, but the time (11.30) wans't right, because we already had an appointment in town by then.) We asked his advice and he said we shouldn't wait like last time, but "go for the attack". That was my thought too. And whenever necessary we could refer people to him. Well, that's a good feeling of support there too. I was completely drained when we went home. The freezing cold just seemed a minor touch......... After dinner I brought the girls to bed. I was so tired that I lied down. Thought that wouldn't matter when they were washing themselves and brushing their teeth. Vaguely I heard them say to each other: "Mom is so tired. Let's be silent so she can sleep a bit. She looks so lovely" and then I was away....... When I woke up it was only 15 minutes later, but I felt a bit better. Called Child Care, but the regional desk was closed. It's open tomorrow morning at 9. And called the trustperson of school to have a talk. Jim did it and, boy, what is that guy clumsy with words. Well, we have an appointment for noon tomorrow, so that's great. I'm glad the oldest of 19 can step in, so he can watch the children. === My goal is ofcourse to stop that false accusation, stop the train before it's too late. I don't know if I can. But as the truth is that the accusation is false, and our girls say they are happy children, I should have faith. My other goals makes me even more determined. I want to stop the bullying at that school. Even if the head of that headmaster must roll. The bullying must stop!!!! So you see: I too have a dream!!!! Labels: -
. False accusations are difficult to deal with. It's impossible to proof nothing has happened. We dealt with a false accusation of a psychotic woman some years ago. And rather than go to her doctor to check if she was able to have some sense of reality, the police took the father of a family of 6 in solitary confinement during the time of research. They used all sorts of psychological interrogation techniques on me to make me say something that wasn't true, accused me of all sorts of evil to make me speak out about something that didn't happen, and in the end they threw my husband out of jail without a shave and clean clothes. Not even two hours before the shops closed, and they knew we had to buy presents for the twins who had their birthday the day after. Speak of trauma!!! Interesting was that the policewoman who made the most painful and wrong accusations on my address died the day after she threw them to me. No voodoo there on my part!! === And now we had to deal with false accusations again. I reacted totally different from the time before. Well, I knew what I was facing and I didn't take delight in that! But there was a difference. Last time they listened to what we had to say. This time they didn't listen one bit. And the utter helplessness I felt made me so very observant and perceptive for everything. Even the way the person who was accusing us was breathing and sitting. In a way the world was confined to that one single room, time to that single moment. But I saw the snow starting to weave its way through the lines of wind, and I felt the pain of the past pressure me into a dark future. I've learned a bit from the mistakes of the past. That time I waited for what was going to happen. This time I did the laundry, spoke with some people, wrote it all down, made the first draft of a letter of complaint after I spoke about the complaint with the chairman of the board, and I made a list of people I wanted to talk with. I even sat down and tried to find some good in the whole situation. I hope the next person we meet wants to listen and uses his brains. No way I can forecast how I will react in another interrogation. I'm tired of fighting for the truth with people who don't want to see it and just allow every pervert idea spin stories in their heads. I'm responsible for 6 children and they all say they are happy. How can others claim they're not???? Labels: -
peacekeeper
Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!! Christmas started for me with the moon bright in the sky. It was wonderful!! The full moon, casting a winterlight on everything and creating large shadows. I woke the girls and we stood in front of their window, gazing outside in awe. A moment worth to remember. D in front of me, and Y standing beside me, with the curtain covering her back. Both faces tilted to look at the moon. Christmasday started with N going downstairs at 5.10 hours in the morning. I would have understood if we had presents under the tree, but we don't have that. When he wakes up, he's not able to sleep anymore. It's one of those problems parents from some autistic children have to face. He switched on the computer and kept silent, so I went back to bed. We woke up with the world covered in misty clouds. Very special in its own way. We've spend the day at home, as planned. N is still adjusting to the fact that it's vacation. It wouldn't have been a problem if he'd be alone. But with T around, making remarks about everything, I felt like sitting on a sissling vulcano. So I was on the top of my toes about all day; a true peacekeeper. (I couldn't find an adoptable with the text, otherwise it would have been on top of this blog. LOL!! One way or another I had a strange feeling that grew inside me. It made me nervous. It felt like something huge was pending. (It's still not gone). So when we smelled something burning, we went through the whole house, sniffing and looking for something that created it. But we found nothing. It came from outside, from people who have a fireplace in their house. The wind blew the fumes to our part of the street. Needless to say I don't like that. Y felt a bit congested too. Later we had a simple christmasdinner. Nothing special, except for the ice. Someone didn't expect the thick chocolatesauce to suddenly "fall" down, so we all had a good laugh and spooned the sauce from his tray. LOL! The evening was rather quiet. I needed that!!! Merry Christmas!!! Thank you all for the beautiful cards and gifts. Don't forget to collect yours on my site, or ask me for the zipfile with cards and swapitems. Labels: -
the day before christmas 2004
Jim has his day off to get the groceries in. We always try to get some special offers that are put into the sales an hour before closing time. But one can know for sure now that the economy is worse, as there was hardly anything special. So we ended up with chicken for christmas. Well, it'll do, fine. Finally we got hold of the psychiatrist. We asked for medication for N, but she first wanted an appointment. It will be on....... january 28th!!! So christmas, the change of years and my birthday will be spend guarding him, instead of enjoying it. Well, so be it. By then I will be over the disappointment. I felt like we've been left in the cold though, because I don't like it when they give all the decisions in my own hands, (because I'm a psychologist), but when I need them to write a signature, they pull back. It's annoying, because they would have put down that signature if a patient/client would have been involved. Grrrr. We had lots of rain.... not really a day before christmas. To get a bit of feel, I put a pot with cinnamon and other spices to boil, and it filled the house with just the feel that was needed. I got a very special gift for christmas from Lizzie: the lady on top of the christmasblog. And a huge surprise from Siobhan. She made me member till june from Fairy Glen Graphics. I was one of her most admiring members when she still has a linkware section, so I'm absolutely thrilled by the present. Immediately I reworked a page of the christmasstory. Thanks a lot Lizzie, Siobhan and all others, who make my christmas so very special. Thanks Thanks Thanks!!!!!! Labels: -
waiting for snow
Another one of those days that seem to excist out of hurrying. But I got to clean the backcurtains. An extra. So that's great! One way or another I felt a bit more energetic than the last days. Tomorrow the girls have a christmasdinner at school, so I got two nice jackets from their wardrobe. I got them from a friend, and now they come to good use. Before that they have a special balletlesson. Parents and every one else are invited to have a look. I've danced with the same teacher, so I'm sure she'll be amazed about how I am now. Can't even walk properly..... There are days I forget I've ever done ballet, but then I hear some music and all my genes start moving and dancing. LOL! Wish I had the chance to make another choreography. I've got enough creativity flowing through my body when I hear music. And before the ballet, we have to go to school for a talk with the teacher of D. It's time the school opens up about the bad reading of her. She gets assistance, the teacher said that last week. But I want to know if that's on base of a dyslexia test. The school informs parents badly, and last year we got an agreement they would inform us better... When it's on base of a dyslexiatest, it's not to the school alone to choose the assistance. We should have a say in that too. legally we have.... Brrrrr..... it's so cold... Last night it's been freezing like mad, and even during the day it did. They said that we might get snow... maybe even at christmas..... Oh, and the doctor mailed: the recipe for the Lipitor had been mailed to the pharmacist...last week.But he would do it again. (I mailed him it wasn't there.}. I know he's not speaking the truth about last week, and I'm sure he knows I know. Otherwise the pharmacist would have solved the matter...... Well, I can't be bothered.... We're waiting for snow.... Labels: -
passport
Had to go for a passport. Had to take the girls with me, because they are going on my passport. T and Lwent too, because they needed a passport too. There goes the christmasdinner I thought, when they gave the bill. I wouldn't have done it, but we're forced too. We need to have identification immediately available from januari 1. When I had to write my signature, I could hardly write. I was amazed...what was the matter? I had to sign about 6 times and all signatures were different. Unbelievable!! I'm not worried, but for a short moment I thought: MS. There are times I can do everything with my hands, and then suddenly I can't hold a mug properly, and, like now, can hardly write properly. Sometimes it lasts a day, other times it lasts a week. I was glad the woman at the council didn't care. T was amazed he had to answer questions like: "the names etc from your parents please." He thought it to be rediculous to answer these questions. She had my data in front of her. Only after we explained she had to check if he was really my son, he answered them. After that we went to the Fair Trade shop, which is nearby. I haven't been in a shop for a while, so it was nice. Bought the girls each a little sparkling ball at the size of a marble. Happiness for a couple of dimes. I saw a nice Peruvian Christmasscene. And I still had one of those presentvouchers. Can you believe it? I bought it!! The Faces were clearly made with care. Real love for the work that was put in it. So I feel very happy with it, and I'm glad the maker gets good wages too. Made a giftpacket for a friend. It took quite a while because of the uncooperative hands. When it was all taped in, I realised I'd forgotten another little present.... Well, it'll go later next year I expect. I couldn't open the package at all! Labels: -
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